I told my daughter, "Be careful how you handle this; it will impact him later on in life should he ever be in a similar situation." My wise daughter was way ahead of me. She and her husband had a plan to help him deal with this. They made sure that he knew that they understood his position and why he had to defend himself. They were not upset at him for that. They also made sure to discuss alternatives with him.
I found myself thinking back to the wise words my father had bestowed upon my brothers. He told them not to ever start a fight, but of course, men being men, you can't exactly walk away from one either. He also discussed alternatives with them.
My grandson's parent's alternative was similar to what my father had told my brothers years before. "Defend yourself intelligently." His belief was that a person who opens his/her mouth and starts spewing out profane or derogatory remarks has already lost the fight; he looks ignorant. That said, he told them "Mejor un loco y no dos." translated, better one fool than two. There are times when the best thing to do is walk away.
Though I never had any boys, I still applied by father's philosophy. Once my daughters reached middle school, I was worried that someday someone would come up to them and try to goad them into an altercation, be it verbal or physical. I passed on my Dad's philosophy; if that day should come simply walk away. "Mejor un loco y no dos."
Pass it on :)
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